We each thrive on human connection. “No man is an island.” We can never be truly independent, when our nature is interdependence. In a way we are all one life rolling and flowing together. Perhaps that’s why even the least social of us crave some form of community. This could come in many forms and it is an essential part of any healthy human experience. I’m not suggesting that solitude isn’t healthy, but as with anything in life, it’s all about finding a balance. We need somewhere to go where we can feel like we’re a contributing part of a powerful whole. Maybe this group has come together due to a common interest like a genre of music or for a common cause like helping the homeless or people who suffer from a specific disease. Regardless of what the purpose of the community is, there is a reason for this amalgamation. With people, the whole is always greater than the sum of its parts. We can do together what we can never achieve in solo.
I personally wasn’t fully conscious of the communities I was part of until fairly recently, and therefore wasn’t a fully contributing or present member; more of a drifter. Having this deeper awareness for my various communities has made me a more powerful member and thus a more powerful man. Here is a breakdown of the communities I belong to and how you can foster a sense of community in your life!
1. Long Island DIY music scene – I have been playing music for the past 15 years. For a while, in the beginning, I was not attached to any particular scene or group. I had my friends that I played with we had the bands we loved to listen to, but there wasn’t that sense of community that I am speaking to. It took a while, but some friends and I eventually became part of a band and started playing shows that my friend Mike (now my bandmate and founder of Dead Broke Records) was booking. I finally had that sense of belonging and contribution that I had longed for. It was here that I formed many strong bonds and relationships with people I continue to have incredible times with. This community made it possible for me to fulfill my dream of touring the country with a band; something I continue to do this day. I love being part of this awesome community of talented, loving, creative, and fun people. There’s always been this unspoken “all are welcome” rule to this group. There’s nothing elitist about it, perhaps that’s why I took to it so easily.
2. Health & Wellness - This community has taken form in various ways in my life. Firstly there is the local health scene where I would put health stores I frequent on Long Island, such as Sherry’s Market, Organic Corner, Juice and Blends, and The Water Well. All of these stores contribute to the health of my local area, and that is why I show them my support when I can. Many of my friends and colleagues are either health mentors, coaches, or involved in the health & wellness field in some way. I am also part of The Earth Diet community, which is for both business and pleasure! Founder and Author, Liana Werner-Gray, with the help of myself as online designer and mentor, does her best to foster a community of health conscious people eager to learn more and share their knowledge of natural remedies, healthy delicious recipes, and tips for sustainable healthy living. We actually started a members club which includes all downloadable products offered (over $500 worth) and an invitation to The Earth Diet Members private Facebook group. There people get to share their health goals and any questions with a community of health mentors and fellow members. It is just the beginning, but we’re seeing amazing things happening already. One area where I plan to get more involved is with the local farms. I will surely spend more time this year at the farmers markets and farms on the east end of the Island. There’s nothing like freshly picked kale and other veggies! Last but not least, I am a part of the Integrative Nutrition community, as a current student enrolled in the program and someone who is already in the field of health coaching. Here I am expanding my knowledge and skill set in health mentoring to the next level. I am very happy to be able to share this expansion with a flourishing group of driven, ambitious health professionals and wellness entrepreneurs.
3. Momentum Education - I feel a very strong connection to the people I have shared experiences with in the amazing, life-changing workshops offered by momentum. They run weekend group workshops focused on major personal growth. Since I’ve been on this path of deeper self-awareness, personal health, and all around bettering myself, I have seen my biggest breakthroughs within these workshops and while applying the work in my life beyond. I can’t go into detail about what happens in the exercises because I would potentially spoil your own unique experience. I will say that this is the kind of work that will change the world. I sometimes wonder what our planet would look like if every person put one weekend aside to do the Basic Workshop. I am currently enrolled in their Leadership Program, where every person is held accountable to reach where they want to be; to go out of our comfort zones and beyond where we ever imagined we would. We are creating someone really incredible together, and it is only the beginning. I have a feeling I will be connected to the Momentum community for a very long time. I sincerely want every person to do this work, so f you have any questions, feel free to email me or simply take the leap and enroll in the Basic Workshop here.
How to find a community that’s right for you?
What are you interested in and deeply passionate about? Write down all of your personal interests. Make a large list of everything you are currently doing or desiring to be involved in. It could be anything. Choose a few that stand out the most. Here’s where you get to find other people who are also doing it. Do a simple online search and find out who else is interested in what you’re doing. It could be an online community, or in person. Contact who you need to contact and get involved. Contribute in any way you can, even if it means simply showing up somewhere. If you’re like me, when you came to figuring out what communities to be involved in, I had the realization that I was already a member of communities that fell within my passions. It was all a matter of stepping up and being an active member rather than a bystander.